• 2022-05-31
    Weareconstantlyaskingforandgivinghelptofriendsandstrangers.Wealldothis.Andweknowthatnoteverybodywillacceptourassistance.Wealsoknowthatwecannotusethesamelanguagewitheverybody.Thiswillvaryfrompersontoperson.Sometimesweofferdirectadvicetoclosefriendsbutsomeothertimesweunderstandthatwehavetouseopenadvice.Soitisimportanttopayattentiontothecontextandnotonlytothepersonweareabouttohelp(thisis,whetherthepersonisafamilymemberoraclosefriend).Peopleinneedofhelpcanbeinadifficultsituation;theycanbeemotionalwhentheycometousforadvice.Ifthisisthecase,usingopenexpressionswillhelpcreatingamorerelaxingenvironment.WecaneventaketheconversationtoapositiveclosurebyusingleadingquestionslikeHaveyouconsidered…,Howabout…orIfIwereyou…Youcanevenusepersonalexamplestoempathizewiththepersonseekingadvice.Ifyouputyourselfinhisorhershoes,youradvicewilldefinitelybemoreuseful.AboutyouReadthetextagain.ThinkabouthowyougiveadviceinChinese.ThinkalsoaboutthedifferencesbetweengivingadviceinChineseandinEnglish.Writeyourthoughtsinthespacebelow:InChina,we()WhenspeakinginEnglish,we()